Going through a divorce can be one of the most trying times in your life. There are a wide range of decisions that need to be made, and often times the disputes going on between you and your soon-to-be-ex are directly impacting your collective ability to make clear decisions. When property, vehicles, and children are involved, those decisions get even harder making the entire situation more complicated.
Even couples that are agreeing on how to divide things and are separating amicably may be faced with decisions they weren’t expecting and disagreements they did not foresee going into the process.
Meanwhile, you and your ex are also trying to create your new normal and figure out what your life is supposed to look like as a newly single individual. For at least one of you, this means moving to a new home. It may also mean not seeing your children as regularly as you did before. There are no easy transitions when it comes to getting a divorce.
Hiring a divorce lawyer doesn’t mean the divorce is going to get ugly or you are trying to hurt each other. It is a practical and logical step because someone with vast knowledge and experience with divorces in your state will know the decisions you are going to need to make the questions you should be asking.
Your divorce lawyer will help you think clearly about your current situation and your future one, as you may not be as clear-headed. A divorce attorney can provide an objective mind and voice of reason in an otherwise chaotic situation.
There is nothing wrong with saying you need divorce help. There are plenty of qualified and compassionate divorce lawyers that can go through the issues with you and help prepare divorce papers that accurately and completely reflect your needs and desires moving forward.
Sometimes mediation services will be recommend, which will give you and your ex the opportunity to talk out the issues with someone who will remain neutral. While your divorce attorney will be solidly on your side in every argument, a mediator will help you and your ex see areas of compromise and help the process go painlessly, if you both cooperate.
If your divorce is not amicable and not going smoothly, your divorce attorney will be there to fight for you. They will ensure that your rights and desires are respected and heard. While you may not get everything you wanted out of the situation, you will have your best chance at being heard and considered through the process by the judge.
This is particularly necessary if you are fighting over custody of your children or ownership of property. Sadly, things can get ugly between two people, who once loved each other when they are trying to keep control of what they think they deserve from the relationship.
Years of anger and resentment can come out in the form of trying to hurt each other through the divorce process. For some, it may even come out in trying to use the children against each other. While this is a sad and unfortunate situation, it is reality for a lot of people. It is important to be prepared, which means having an experienced and knowledgeable divorce attorney on your side through the entire process.